The conversation of the week: Self-worth

This week, I've been working on the following question: How do you express your unawareness of your own worth? I got it from Louise L. Hay's book, "You Can Heal Your Life." This book has prompted me to observe my dialogue around worthiness and reprogram it across various areas of my life.

Picture took it from a visit to Tate Museum

I find myself at a stage where I need to choose what I want for myself, from the new place I'll live, who will live with me, applying to jobs, the people I want to work with, the company I'll invest my energy in, the projects I want to commit to, to whom I want to share my love – that evolutionary love I want to experience. This transition process currently requires me to sit down and have a conversation about what I believe I deserve, from where I'm choosing, what my internal dialogues are, and what my relationship with confidence is like.

When you're aware and committed to the progress you want to make, life begins to show you and provide the answers you need. Here's a story from this week where I could observe my lack of awareness of my own value as a customer.

If we're on autopilot, it's hard to see this; it's difficult to recognize the patterns we've carried since childhood or the cultural patterns that imprint on us, for better or worse. It's part of allowing ourselves to strip down and say, "Why am I not allowing myself to believe that I can deserve...? Where does this limiting belief come from? And the invitation I always extend to myself is: Can I do things differently? Am I willing to tolerate the discomfort that comes with doing things differently? Am I willing to do the work that's necessary and take responsibility for my carry bag, open it up, look at everything inside, and understand what I want to carry and what I want to let it go with gratitud?

Asking ourselves these questions is worthwhile if we want extraordinary results, if we want to leave the victim position and don the cloak of heroes in our lives. But are we willing to let go? Let go of loyalty to our own families, cultures? People who have undergone family constellation therapy should understand what I'm talking about, or if not, I invite you to watch a very interesting series on Netflix that explains this a bit, "My Other Self" https://www.netflix.com/watch/81452291?trackId=255824129.

I believe in this quote that Louise writes in her book: "As we have more understanding, more awareness, and more knowledge, we will do things differently." However, I think there's something fundamental: being willing to work, to let go of limiting beliefs, and to hold the emptiness that those beliefs will leave.

Two weeks ago, I was helping a friend organise things in his house, and I made a zone for things to be thrown away, things that really no longer served him. The exercise was very interesting because he had a very logical response to everything not to be thrown away, and it made me understand the mental resistance we have and create to not discard what no longer serves us, even when life is abundantly giving us what we deserve.

We're loaded with resistance to change. I saw it in myself this week, starting to train with weights and seeing the resistance my body had since it had been a while since I had done it. I observed myself and from my self-love, I insisted on activating my muscles, working for what I want, which is to be stronger and healthier. I don't want mental laziness to win. And it's the same with everything, even with the reprogramming of our own patterns.

I invite you to take a pencil and paper and answer this question: "How do you express your unawareness of your own worth?" Take this question to different areas of your life and promise to make the necessary changes based on the answers. It'll be worth it!

Marina Thanks for cap this moment :)

Note: In April 2021, Guimar gave me this avocado plant. Three years later, it's more beautiful than ever. I've had to learn its needs, change its pot as it grows, and other things. Likewise, I recently had to give my magical and favorite Aloe vera plant to Lee because I drowned it, used the wrong soil, and as I'm about to move, I decided to let it go because I can't take care of it right now. (I invite you to draw the moral of these two stories with my plants).

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